I love helping smart, accomplished women reconnect to themselves through self-care, set healthy boundaries with clarity and confidence, and find the courage to trust themselves.
If you spend all your time reacting to whatever gets thrown at you, putting out fires and cleaning up other people’s messes, you’ll soon find yourself wondering “What am I doing? How did I get here? How do I stop?”
It’s time to claim your rightful place in your own life.
Twelve years ago, there was so much dissonance in my life. On paper, my life probably looked pretty good. I was the youngest person in management at a large telecommunications company. I had gathered the courage to leave a long term relationship that wasn’t right for me, and I had recently claimed my independence by getting my first apartment.
The truth however, was something completely different. I was working long hours at a job that felt meaningless to me. Although I had made some bold moves in my life, I was feeling stuck. I struggled with emotional eating and gained 40 pounds.
I was building my life around what I thought I was supposed to want, and I had never stopped for long enough to figure out what I actually wanted.
I didn’t know how to turn it around. I suffered from insomnia, had little to no energy, and was very anxious.I felt very isolated and alone. I was a smart, ambitious woman who should be able to do whatever she wanted. How could I have let this happen?
The little voice in my head had no sympathy for me. My own decisions put me in this place, and I should just suck it up and put a smile on my face. After all, other people had way bigger problems than me. Who did I think I was to complain? To want more for myself? Who was I to dream? What I had was reliable, and it wouldn’t be practical to reassess my trajectory this far in. Besides, other people would be affected if I switched routes now, and it was my job to keep them happy, to keep up my end of the bargain.
I held on for as long as I could. Come to think of it, I probably held on longer than I could because there came a point when it didn’t even feel like a choice anymore. I had a breakdown (at work, no less), which turned out to be the beginning of the rest of my life. I had gone so far that I had sunk into depression, and was experiencing serious anxiety and an eating disorder. I left work that day and didn’t return for six months.
During that time, I dove deep into self-care. I found a therapist, I started doing yoga and meditating. I journaled and wrote songs and sang them at open mic nights. I examined the old, unresolved crap that kept me stuck in patterns that I didn’t want to repeat anymore.
I embarked on a journey of personal authenticity and I never looked back.
Don’t get me wrong – I was scared. It’s as though I realized I was living in a house made of cards and if I made any wrong moves, it would all come tumbling down. The most frightening thing is the unknown, and so we can get paralyzed waiting for a sure thing, a perfect plan. What I found is that all I needed to do was to take the first step, and then everything would reveal itself.
My meltdown was my catalyst, but the good news is that you don’t need to wait for it to happen to you before you decide to tune into your truth. You probably already have an idea of what’s not working for you in your life, and that gives you the gift of time to explore. You can start with small changes that make a big impact instead of waiting for your boat to capsize.
Your soul is calling, and it’s trying to tell you something. Are you listening?
When we’re neck-deep in commitments, there’s no room for our truth to arise. The thing that changes it all is making room for ourselves. There’s power in the pause. Reclaiming our lives starts with reclaiming our time. Our calendar. Our energy. Our values.
It’s okay to call a time out. In fact, I highly recommend it.
It can feel scary to start to look closely because we’re afraid of what we might find. It’s safe to go deeper here.
The time my clients spend with me is the safe space where they unplug from all their roles and responsibilities, all the expectations, and let go enough to see what’s true for them.
The result? Clarity and confidence to create a life that feels as good as it looks.
“Breathing Room is so helpful at crucial times when I’m experiencing anxiety and overwhelm. With your guidance, I have been able to ground myself and get in touch with my fears, pains and help myself come out of it with a degree of being ok, calm, and grounded.”
“Since the first email I have been doing the exercises everyday. The first thing I have noticed is that I didn’t know how to breathe!! I have been doing yoga for four months now and it wasn’t until you explained it that I realized how I should breathe and noticed how important breathing is.”